10 tips to find yourself when you’re feeling lost

Do you feel like you’re wandering through life with no sense of direction?  Whether you’ve lost yourself in a relationship, a career, unhealthy habits, or simply feel lost in life in general, you are not alone. All of us feel lost at some point in our lives. Believe me, I’ve surely been there too. The key to get out and move on is not to get stuck so that you can step into your power and take inspired action to create a life you love. 

Just because you don’t have it all figured out doesn’t mean that you’re a failure, or that your life is already over. It just means that you are moving through a very, perhaps life-changing process of transformation. Maybe everything feels like a mess right now but I want you to know that a complete MESS actually can be something beautiful. This is where you really get to know yourself and who you really are. 

It’s all really a matter of perspective and how you feel inside about what you’re going through. I’ve had a couple of crises to go through myself during life, I know now that all of them have been crucial for my growth. And most importantly, I’ve learned a LOT of things along the way and I’d like to share them with you.  Here are some tips that will help you and remind you of the fact that you are a powerful creator. 

Take your time to read all this and reflect!

1. Get to know who you really are

Embrace alone time in solitude in order to connect with yourself and who you truly are. It is so important to get comfortable in your own skin, learning to enjoy hanging out with no one but yourself. This is a time to allow yourself to really slow down and tune inwards in order to connect with your heart’s voice. Who are you behind all the masks and different roles you play out in life?  

2. Discover and choose your inner core values 

Knowing your inner core values will guide your actions in life and give you inner peace. This is about all the things that really matter to you. Are you living your life on your terms or are you living someone else’s? Your answers can make you feel uncomfortable, it’s totally fine. Give yourself some time to reflect on this one and write down your three most important core values in life.

3. Reconnect with your dreams and dream big 

What kinds of dreams did you have before you lost yourself in the busyness of life? In your dream world of creation, what would you love to be, have, or do? Once you reconnect with your dreams, you’ll have the desire and inspiration to begin to take action and suddenly you will have found yourself again. Grab a piece of paper or journal and reconnect with your dreams. 

4. Quiet your mind and let your heart speak 

Spend some alone time in nature, maybe embrace yoga as part of your life or give yourself a beautiful gift – a daily meditation practice. Just become present and forget about the past or the future and just lose yourself in the now. When you find this peaceful and calm spot within you of inner peace, you’re not gonna wanna leave. Let go of all the mind chatter in order to go within and listen to your soul.

5. Do more of what makes you happy 

As we grow up, we often lose sight of how amazing life can be because we feel burdened by the responsibilities and mundane parts of life. It’s time to reconnect with all the things you love and to take action on it. This is about allowing yourself to be led by joy, creativity, and all things that make you smile from within. Follow what lights you up and find out what you feel passionate about! 

6. Make self-care and self-love a priority 

It’s a common misbelief that it’s selfish to take the time to take care of yourself. Truth is, you will always be a way more healthy and loving human being not only to yourself but actually for the whole world if you feel amazing. Make sure to cover all the basics such as nourishing foods, exercise and moving your body, and plenty of rest in order for you to feel good and stay in balance. 

7. Remember that you are the own creator of your reality 

Know that you have the power to be, have, and do anything you desire and dream of. Sometimes the feeling of being lost is all-consuming and you forget that you actually get to choose what thoughts you feed your mind with and how you want to feel. If you’re feeling lost, that’s just a very clear sign from your heart telling you that it wants to get back in alignment. 

8. Be brave and step outside your comfort zone 

Inner growth and personal development take work and require us to become uncomfortable in order to change. Challenge yourself to do something that takes you outside of your familiar and safe space, imagine that you are stretching yourself just enough to continue to grow, expand and evolve.  What’s the first thing that came to mind for you? Go do that thing!

9. Define what success really means to you 

Time to get to know your ego! We all want to be and feel successful. We chase money, fame, power, education, spirituality, relationships, and a thousand other things without ever stopping to ask ourselves what that really means for us. Don’t lose yourself in a trap of someone else´s definition of what success really means. Instead – make sure to find your own meaning!

10. Ask for help – you don’t have to work all this out on your own

Reach out and ask for help and allow yourself to receive. Sometimes simply having a chat with someone can provide the insight you need to take the next step and move forward with ease. Whether it’s a coach, mentor, friend, counselor, or the Universe – ask for help and be open to the guidance and tools that come your way. You need to allow yourself to be supported in order to be held.

Some final thoughts for you!

No matter how hard life gets, remember that feeling lost and “losing yourself” doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Instead, think of it as a beautiful opportunity for you to grow and re-evaluate what’s really important to you. Switch your mindset from chaotic to peaceful and inner knowing that something better is right around the corner. This is the perfect time for you to get to know who you really are. If you feel that you want support on your journey to finding your purpose, happiness, and getting to know your most vibrant self, then I’ve got you. I invite you to read more about my signature 1:1 Coaching Experience here.